Before Moving Their Hearts, You Must Enter Their Minds
In the previous three posts, we have discussed the examples of hypnosis and behavioural psychology to further investigate the works of trance, a fundament of moving people to your will.
- How The Methodology Of Moving People Changed pt.1
- How The Methodology Of Moving People Changed pt.2
- How The Methodology Of Moving People Changed pt.3
However, in order to move someone to act according to you, first your presence must occupy their mind.
Lack of understanding this factor, as the cases of pre-existing hypnosis and behavioural psychology were, is the reason why dating tips and day-to-day psychology built on those could not achieve what you wanted to achieve.
If you were to ask what are the two scenarios where hypnosis would be futile, these would be the answers:
- When a kid is trying to perform hypnosis to an adult.
- When an untrustworthy troublemaker performs hypnosis to their parents.
Hence, in order to move people, in their eyes you must be someone worthy of doing such.
In the interpersonal psychology SoGye, social interaction is taught first
from the moment you meet someone, before even saying your first word,
and that is the reason why.
The Immediate Responses Before One Assesses Why Must They Follow
As you apply SoGye, the interpersonal psychology of magnates
you will start to notice, even in a group where you’re a newcomer,
who is the leader (alpha) of that group.
Or, even in a group where it’s not structured or hierarchal,
one which is formed spontaneously among the strangers,
you will be able to tell easily who is most likely to become the leader
and who is capable of controlling the flow.
Likewise, you will be able to tell to what extent is someone telling the truth
and if they are agreeing to you truthfully.
Those who are already adept at SoGye
can stop a walking stranger with a small hand gesture,
make everyone stand and leave a place by simply saying
“let’s get going,”
and influence everyone’s decisions by voicing one’s opinion.
Even if it something that people do not wish to do,
if one asks, they will follow with ease,
even without any logical explanation or reasoning.
It is likewise while running a counselling session with Sub’Shim, the classical hypnotic techniques.
It doesn’t sweat trying to explain at length the reason for hypnosis,
or do a lengthy induction process telling them to do this and focus on that.
The moment you enter the room and shake their hands, they are already in hypnosis.
This is the uniqueness of SoGye that differentiates itself from the pre-existing hypnosis.
So, why do people agree to our intent without much hesitation?
Why are they so quick to synchronise themselves?
The principles behind it are simple:
- You instilled a charismatic impression within them that is accompanied by an element of friendliness and warmth.
- When you lead the situation according to your will, they think it is ‘the right thing to do’ or it was their intentions to begin with.
These aspects are called Sub’Hon in SoGye
When asked what are the examples of Sub’Hon in our day-to-day experiences, these would be the answers:
- In a public transport, automatically giving up your seats to the elderlies, the pregnant or persons with disability.
- Opening a conversation with a stranger when they look at you for a duration or you make an eye contact.
All of these, are times when an immediate response occurs first, and the reasoning for one’s actions follow much later, or not at all.
Before learning and honing the techniques, you must understand the principle
Understanding the principles of how these ‘synchronisation’ occurs is the most important; learning what to do and what to say are much later.
Even if you approach interpersonalogy through a narrow passageway of hypnosis, focusing on the specific techniques like
- converse during a handshake and pull the hand towards you suddenly to induce a hypnosis
- prescribe to look upwards at their own eyebrows and cause oculomotor fatigue to induce a hypnosis
- ask to relax their arm, and bring that arm to close their eyes to induce a hypnosis
won’t get you far.
Knowing the core principles and mechanisms, you can induce a deep state of hypnosis with something so simple like saying hi, nice to meet you and some small talk.
Without understanding why they will follow your words and why they will enter a hypnotic state, no technique is advanced enough to work.
The ultimate technique of creating a deep impression – Sub’Ann
Be it Sub’Shim that projects one’s thoughts into people’s subconscious,
or Sub’Hon that imprints one’s thoughts into people’s consciousness,
it all starts with the eye contact.
Be it attractive women or men that you wish to meet, or a business client that you have to meet, the first priority is to leave a correct impression thus the need for:
- Giving awareness that you are about to approach before actually doing so; Pre-Approach Knowledge
- Intermediate stage of dampening the discomfort and burden to prevent rejection of approach; LTHB
However, what you may not have noticed is that even in these, the eye-contact – or more accurately – the gaze is the key.
However, while the gaze is effective tool of psychology, it has certain difficulties in managing it.
Eye-contact one way, you will appear to lack confidence and be insignificant;
another way, you will make them feel uneasy, embarrassed or repulsed.
Hence, it is like two sides of a coin:
The impression of confidence and charisma and
the impression of friendliness and warmth.
You must aim to effectively communicate both sides of the impression,
as being skewed to one side is not ideal.
While having a cup of coffee with a stranger,
if you feel that a strange sense of awkwardness does not go away,
despite continuing conversation topic after topic, humour after humour,
it will likely be because you are not being aware of when to keep contact and when to drift off the gaze.
Do you know someone who is a good speaker and who can draw people’s attention?
If so, observe how they move their eyes while they speak;
even something as simple as that will be a valuable learning.
And ask yourself how you have looked at others when you talked,
and how you made the eye-contact when you first met someone.
While it is important who you actually are,
it is also important who you actually appeared to be,
for we are all horses in a carousel that the society is.